If you get into a situation where you and a few friends weren’t uninvited to a party, you could throw a party of your own.
“That’s fantastic! I wish I could be there, too. " “You know, I don’t have any plans that night. You think it’d be alright if I tagged along?” “Dude, it’s been forever since we’ve gotten rowdy! We should go together!”
Even if turned down, you may be able to ask your friend if he has any leads for a mutual friend who is going that you can tag along with.
“Hey Emily, I was talking with my friend John the other day, and he doesn’t have anything going on this weekend during the party. I didn’t say anything about it in case it wasn’t cool with you, but would you mind if I invited him along?” “Emily! I have a favor to ask. I wanna come to your party so bad, it sounds mad awesome, but I promised my buddy Kris I’d chill with him. You know him? He’s real cool - mind if he comes along?”
Make specialty decorations. Mix up a batch of your favorite party drink. Offer your services as a DJ. [1] X Research source
Helping with decorations, for larger parties. Assisting refreshing party necessaries, like ice. Organizing or setting up sound equipment.
If you have a great idea that would add to the party, you might suggest this to the host, but you should be aware that this refusal might be a gentle way of saying you aren’t invited. As an example, you might volunteer to take photos of the party to commemorate the event. If the party host or organizer likes your idea, you are in![3] X Research source
By anticipating needs, you can prove to the host that you’d be a welcome addition to the party crew.
Bring seasonal gifts, like a plastic pumpkin of Halloween candy, eggnog, winter themed treats, or cold drinks in the summer. Give a mixology set as a present for when the party gets started, but only if age appropriate. A dish to pass or snacks to contribute. [4] X Research source
“Emily, I heard about your party. Sound super fun! If you need any dessert, I make killer chocolate chip cookies - my grandmother’s recipe. Everybody love them!” “So what are your plans for the weekend? Oh, a party? Well, if you need dessert, I have the best recipe for homemade chocolate chip cookies. “[5] X Research source
There’s always a possibility, whether due to your associations or the hosts perceptions, that you might be denied. Getting angry in this situation rarely does anything positive for your reputation. Be polite and have fun on your own.
