Don’t call someone out or make a scene at first. That will only make you look worse. Let the person think they’ve won and wait for your chance to get even. Is your friend taking advantage of your relationship? Tired of trying to talk to him and not getting through? Don’t blow up at him, wait for your chance to get even.
Remember that coworker who wronged you? Think of what he did to you and use what you have at your disposal to get even. Maybe your friend is always borrowing your stuff without asking. Why not get even by returning the favor? Maybe your significant other is always late, or never offers to pay for anything.
If you use a shared calendar at work, you can set up a private event that won’t show up on your coworker’s calendar so they don’t know about it. If you’re looking to have a bit more fun, you can also go into a shared folder and move their files around, hide them in subfolders, or even remove them completely. Just make sure that what you’re doing won’t get you fired. Borrow your friend’s phone charger and hide it so that when his phone runs out of battery he can’t charge it. Use his phone or computer to get on his social media account and post on his behalf apologizing for all of his transgressions. Get even with your significant other by making him wait for once, or “forget” your wallet when you go out.
And if you’re feeling a little vindictive, you can always upload it to social media.
Maybe your coworker has wronged several of you. Work with others to formulate a plan. If you have access to your target’s apartment or home, you and your friends could rearrange his furniture. If you really want to get even, you can do something like putting his mattress on the roof.
If you’re getting even with your coworker, have you and your compatriots get to work early so you have enough time. If you’re getting even with your friend, know what his schedule is like and how long it will take you to get in and get out. If you need his phone or computer, pay attention to how he uses it and if he leaves it unlocked. If he has a passcode on his phone, have a friend distract your target while you put in the wrong passcode enough times to lock him out.
Letting it go doesn’t have to mean that things stay the same. For example, you can still stop letting your friend take advantage of your relationship.
Dwelling on things that have happened to you isn’t always bad, but when you can’t let something go, you can get stuck. [2] X Research source If you’re taking the high road approach and deciding to move forward, try setting positive goals to accomplish or flip negative feelings into positive ones.
Forgiveness can come in plenty of forms, from simply telling someone that you forgive him to helping him accomplish something he’s having trouble with. Express your feelings verbally. Tell him why his actions offended you, and how he made you feel. Put yourself in his shoes. What’s the reason for his actions? Think of a time you felt similar and what you did to move past the situation. If all else fails, just breathe. Try to remember that the world is larger than you and what’s going on in your life.
