Remember, you don’t have to talk all the time in order to create a special moment. Sometimes, the most memorable moments are those without words.
If your date strokes your face or touches you back, that is a positive sign. If your date leans or turns away from you, that is a negative sign. Give them some space.
For example, making eye contact, you could say, “I had a really wonderful time tonight. ”
If your date looks at your lips too, that is a great sign. They may even make the first move. If your date looks away from your lips, fidgets, looks around, or appears otherwise uncomfortable, that is not a great sign.
You might say, “I’d really like to kiss you right now. Is that okay?” They may say “sure!” or they may even reply with a kiss. They may also say “no,” in which case, you should respect that and not pressure them for a kiss.
If you’re unsure if they want to kiss, lean in slowly. This gives them time to stop the kiss if they don’t want to. Pay attention to their body language. If they start to pull away, stop; don’t continue going for the kiss.
Try to touch more than once before the kiss. Establishing comfort through touch will make a kiss more likely. If your date pulls away from your touch, that may mean they’re not ready for physical contact.
Keep your smile genuine, however. You don’t have to keep a big, fake smile plastered over your face like a Barbie doll.
You don’t have to maintain eye contact for the entire date; it’s perfectly to look away. You should definitely keep eye contact while both of you are speaking, however.
If your date is talking about her rescue dog, you might say, “I love pets, too. What made you decide to adopt?” You can also show you’re listening through your body language. Lean forward and put your hand under your chin, for example, to show that they really have your focus.
If your rendezvous is in an unfamiliar part of town, leave yourself a little extra time in case there is traffic, difficult parking, or another unforeseen problem. If you are running late, let them know. Give them a call or a text explaining the situation and giving a rough estimate of when they should expect you to arrive.
For a feminine look, wear a nice dress and some pumps for a fancier date, or a nice blouse and a dark pair of jeans for something a little more casual. For a masculine look, try chinos and a collared shirt. Leather accessories, such as a nice belt, can dress up untorn jeans, too.
Brush your teeth and tongue twice a day to keep your mouth ready for kissing. Always wear deodorant. This is especially important if you sweat when you’re nervous on first date.
If someone turns you down for a kiss, you might say, “No problem. I respect that. ”
