Remember—attracting a good guy means embracing your self-worth. Walk right up to him and start a conversation. Stand up straight, make eye contact. Voice your opinions. Guys love confident girls. [2] X Research source Overconfidence, on the other hand, is not an attractive quality. Be careful not to overdo it.

Be able to laugh at yourself. [3] X Research source This shows that you’re easy-going and that you don’t take yourself too seriously. Go easy on the sarcasm and don’t make jokes at the expense of other people.

Great smile? Flash those pearly whites! Bangin’ curves? Use a belt to accentuate your waist. Beautiful eyes? The right eyeshadow can make the color pop! Find your best feature and work it, girl. Don’t go overboard. A full face of make-up, uncomfortably tight clothes or vertigo-inducing heels may have the opposite of the desired effect, especially if that’s not your normal look. Stick to what works for you and gives you confidence.

Not sure what to say? Tell him he has a cute smile or a great haircut. If he plays an instrument, compliment him on his musical abilities. If he’s on a sports team, tell him you watched a game and were impressed by how well he played. Keep the compliment simple and sincere and he’ll really appreciate it, and take the hint. For instance, you could compliment him on his interests or accomplishments.

Don’t fake an interest in something just to keep him happy. Pretending that you’re an excellent bass player or that you love horror movies has the potential to backfire horribly once he invites you to jam with his band or accompany him to the latest Saw movie. Even if you don’t know anything about sailing or you’re a terrible mini-golfer, all you need to do is show some interest and let him know that you’re eager to learn. It might even give him an idea for your first date!

Many girls make the mistake of telling the guys they like about every tiny detail of their lives. Avoid doing this at all costs, you’ll either overwhelm him, bore him, or scare him away. Maintain an air of mystery and listen more than you talk. Stay engaged in the conversation, even if he’s doing most of the talking. Ask thoughtful and stimulating questions. Maintain eye contact, smile, nod your head and use appropriate hand gestures to indicate interest and agreement.

Don’t play this card too often. Ask for too many favors and his patience will soon wear thin, along with his affections. Don’t play dumb. It’s fine to ask for help when you need it, but don’t intentionally act dumb just to have an excuse to ask. Remember: guys like smart girls, or at least the ones worth dating do.

A guy is more likely to see you as a long-term partner when you confidently know your worth and open up about your vulnerabilities.

Don’t underestimate the power of body language! When you’re around him, keep your body language open. Crossing your arms makes you seem unapproachable and closed off. If you don’t know what to do with your hands, order a drink, or rest them on your lap. Try not to fidget. [11] X Research source . Make lots of eye contact. If you’re looking anywhere but at him while he’s talking to you, you’ll seem disinterested. Looking him straight in the eye and you’ll appear confident and open. [12] X Research source

Ask her to talk to his friends and playfully inquire about when he’s going to ask you on a date. Get her to comment on what a good couple the two of you would make, in front of a group of people. It might be a little embarrassing at the time, but it will plant the idea in his brain. Just make sure that you can count on her to be discreet. Otherwise, using a friend to do your dirty work can seem immature.

Remember, this tactic is to be used only once or twice. If you do it more often than that, he’ll figure out that you’re stalking him and you’ll look like a creep.

It’s always best to embrace your true, authentic self.