If a parent on the sidelines is making mean-spirited remarks or openly criticizing the kids on the field, it’s natural to feel angry. Remind yourself that staying cool is the most mature and appropriate way to handle the situation.
If someone is getting too worked up over the outcome of the match, put things into perspective by reminding them, “Hey, it’s just a game. ” If someone is blocking your view of the field, politely say, “Excuse me, do you mind moving over? I’m trying to watch my son play, too. ”
As a group, consider bringing up the issue with the coach if the problem parent’s behavior doesn’t improve.
Type up a summary of your coaching policies for parents to take home after the meeting.
When parents want to talk to you in overly competitive terms, redirect the conversation to something more positive. Say something like, “Yes, it’s too bad we lost, but I’m really proud of how Ava has been playing on defense lately. She’s really improved since the start of the season. ”
Cut an angry parent off if you have to. Say something like, “I’m not going to talk to you if you keep shouting at me. Please calm down. ” If the parent refuses to calm down, tell them, “I think we should have this conversation another time when your emotions are under control. ”
Don’t try to direct the game from the sidelines, even if you think you know what the team should be doing. It’s the coach’s job to come up with strategies and direct players. Don’t try to live vicariously through your child. Remember that lots of kids just play sports for the fun of it and aren’t too concerned with winning.
